I think the title of this post is a song from Gloria Estefan in the 80’s, and from a blog post I did in August.  So, to be more up to date on my wordsmithing, check out of verse of You and I Both from Jason Mraz:

See I’m all about them words
Over numbers, unencumbered numbered words
Hundreds of pages, pages, pages for words
More words then I had ever heard and I feel so alive

Honestly, I don’t really know why it fits in this post.  I just happen to love the music and lyrics of Jason Mraz, he loves words, and this blog is about words.  Plus, I’m the one writing it, so there.

Okay, to the actual reason for the blog.  I posted yesterday about how the team I was coaching had words and thoughts that were detrimental to their business.  Words and thoughts lead to actions and results.  And there’s a correlation between good words and thoughts and good actions and results, and vice versa.

Think about it, our words create our reality.  So we really have to monitor what we say and think about ourselves, our environments and other people around us.

If you’ve been following this blog, you’ll note that I posted a list of words to eradicate from your vocabulary (eradicate’s a great word, isn’t it?) on August 21st and  August 23rd (click either date to read that post).

Words simply have a huge effect on us.

Think about what feelings you get when you see a loved one’s name pop up on your cell phone caller ID or text.  Whether it’s our spouse, or someone you just started dating, you get a feeling (hopefully a good feeling!) when you see their name.  You’ve attached meaning and feeling to the word(s) in their name.

Think about arguments you’ve been in with loved ones.  Many times one word, or one phrase gets taken the wrong way, and all hell breaks loose.

Words are very powerful.  You say certain words to a child and they will bring those words with them into adulthood.  Those words will sit in the psyche of that child and that child will quite possibly live their life branded by those words.

So, since words are very powerful, why not make sure you’re thinking and saying the best words for the most powerful mindset?  Why not be careful what you say?  Why not watch your language?

If you’re thinking how bad the market is, or how you’re not a good enough salesperson, then chances are you’re going to end up being right.  It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.  You’re perpetuating the condition.

I have a client who likes to beat you to the punch, so to speak, when she does something that she deems as stupid.  She’ll say some version of “I’m an idiot,” or “I’m such a loser!”  I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how her self esteem, self image, and self worth is, do I?  If you view yourself as an idiot or a loser, how do think you feel about yourself?  Probably not good.

So, if she would stop thinking and verbalizing that about herself, her self image would go up immediately, just because of that little tweak.

“See, I’m all about them words,” and you need to be as well.

Scott Friedman

scott@yourethedifference.com